If you’ve been into the business of looking for a ladyboy girlfriend online, you for sure happened to meet a couple of unpleasant girls, or girls whose real goal was hidden. Maybe it costed you money already, or worse, it costed you to be left heartbroken. At least, it costed you a precious time that you couldn’t allocate to the good girls. You must be conscious that online scamming has never been more developed than nowadays, and it’s sad, but the easiest way to scam you is by playing with your feelings. There are many types of scams, and many types of scammers, and many types of girls that look like scams but are not really… Pretty complicated, right? Let’s have a dive into it.
Who are the ladyboy scammers
Let’s address the 500 pounds gorilla in the room; most of the scams come from the poorest countries, and since we’re talking about ladyboys, let’s say that most of the scams you will encounter will come from South-East Asia, and sad but true, the most will come from Philippines (ah, the beautiful country where I live with my sweet ladyboy girlfriend! No need to generalise either!). Why Philippines more than Thailand or Malaysia, or Indonesia? For the simple reason that Filipinos are the best in South-East Asia at speaking english, and that you are probably dating girls online in english even if it’s not your native language. Of course it’s bad to generalise, there are fortunately of course more honest people in that world than the opposite.
There is only one reason why these people do it: easy money. In the Philippines, the average salary is around 200 USD, and you have to work hard to get them. I understand that some people find it better to sit on their morality (although they’re the most catholic country in the world) and scam foreigners for whom 200 USD does maybe not represent a 10th of their salary. Some scammers really don’t have the choice, either they do it or they die, and it’s still better than being a prostitute (not sure though, at least with a prostitute you get what you pay for).
Actually, ladyboy or real girl, it doesn’t matter. A scammer is a scammer, and the process is the same. Actually, most of the ladyboy scammers will just pass for real girls, and it’s really hard to tell when the only thing you use is an Instant Messaging software and a webcam. Some scammers sometimes are straight boys who crossdress just for “business” but are not real ladyboys, and are not even attracted to men. Sometimes, they will openly admit their status of ladyboy, which is a good strategy in my humble opinion, because it’s a powerful fantasy for many men, and can make the scam more profitable in some cases.
Different scams, different scammers
I believe the most common scam follows that pattern. You meet a girl online, you chat for a bit, she is charming and you both fall in love for each other. Then for a pretext or another, you start sending her money (either she asked for it, or she STRONGLY suggested it), and you think it’s okay because she is giving you hope for a serious relationship later. Common pretexts will be the following:
- she needs to pay for her internet access or she needs to buy a new laptop (or “rent a laptop”, yeah I’ve heard that one, don’t be a fool, nobody rents a laptop, nowhere)
- she needs money for health care (either for her or for a member of her family)
- she needs money to pay for a hypothetic visa to come to your country to visit you (99% of the people in South East Asia will never ever get granted a tourist visa for a first world country, and they know it)
And the list goes on and on… In all the cases, either she is asking you amounts that are always bigger than what it really costs (how can you know, it’s in a country that’s so much different from yours), either she never has the intention to use your money for that purpose, or she is simply giving the same show to many foreigners at the same time. Or the three things at the same time, most probably for the best scam artists. Be careful when the discussion starts to be about money, it’s always an alert that she might not be who you think she is. Oh and also, she might also have a boyfriend already in her country, in addition.
In the general case, you will never happen to meet the girl in real life. If you happen to travel to Asia and meet her, she will find a pretext and disappear. Don’t worry for her, she has many other cash cows on her hook. But in some cases, you might meet her. It actually happened to one of my closest friends. Chatting online, sending money, being serious, and finally he goes to Asia to meet his lovely girlfriend (been to the beach, restaurant, club, shopping… all expenditures were for him of course)… He had amazing time and came back to his country more in love than ever, to actually find out a couple of weeks later that she was doing the same thing with many other foreigners. No need to work when you can just have fun and make 5 times the average salary of your country.
Good news: all Asian ladyboys are not scammers
Reading this, you might think that all ladyboys in Asia are scammers. That is not true. For sure, an Asian ladyboy will be happy to have a foreigner boyfriend because it has higher chances to give her financial security, and a brighter future. It doesn’t mean she only wants to fool you. Most of the girls are serious and want to raise a family, even ladyboys. But they pay attention to the financial health of their potential partners, and that’s just normal, even western girls do that. Besides, money is far from being the only reason why Asian ladyboys like to have a foreign partner, and this is true and verified (by myself, amongst others). So of course you shouldn’t generalise, and I can assure you that Philippines is a great country with great people and great serious ladyboys (when you know how to pick the good ones).
If you want a deeper understanding, I have a chapter about ladyboy scammers, and the other types of girls that you should avoid when looking for a ladyboy girlfriend in my guide for finding a ladyboy girlfriend (and so much more inside of course).
Have a doubt? Want to share experience?
If you have an Internet ladyboy girlfriend and you have a doubt that she might be just scamming you, you can drop me a comment or send me an email to ask me what I think about it. I have seen a lot and will probably spot most of the scammers by only reading some lines of your chatting logs.
And if you have experienced something similar, and you would like to share it on my blog, don’t hesitate to send me an email as well so that I could prepare an article for you and your testimonial. I always like to put sharing at the centre of the debate, gathering many different opinions and many different stories. I have been affected a lot in my past, I spent more money and time that I should have in my quest for happiness… Even if in the end I won and got the happy relationship I was looking for, I believe that you can avoid all of the troubles I’ve been through. Just read my blog, follow me on Facebook or Twitter, subscribe to my newsletter… Share this article. Comment it! And write me emails. Let’s share, share, share. And love, love, love.