It’s been a while I didn’t write something on my blog and I want to apologise for it. I’ve been super busy with life, and especially with my new project, which has become very dear to my heart recently (hey not as much as my ladyboy girlfriend of course, nothing beats her, ever!). A dating site of a new kind especially made for transgenders!
I know what you’re going to say: yet another dating site? Well, no, and I’m going to tell you why. Because online dating for transgenders is broken, and my new dating site is solving this.
Online dating for transgenders is broken
Every dating site is built with the same goal: making as much profit as possible. There is no problem with making profit, charging up to 60 dollars a month if that can help you find the love of your life, is a very low price to pay for a lifetime of happiness. Could I even put a price on the awesome relationship I am having right now? Hell no! However, when online dating comes to transgenders, that interest for profit is in conflict with the interest of the members.
Having sex with a transsexual woman is a fetish and a fantasy for a lot of men (way more than what men like to admit openly 😉 ). And that fetishisation of transsexual women is causing what we currently see on the Internet: an excess of porn and sex-related services. Writing my book and this blog was my initiative for showing that, no, ladyboys are NOT just the bar girls of Pattaya you see on TV. This lack of good information is misleading a lot of men, especially men who don’t know much about Asia.
And “ladyboy dating sites” are not missing the point: they advertise transgenders like they are easy girls or cheap asses. They’re never very strict on the profiles, which leads to underlying sex work and dating scams. Seriously, you barely see the difference between a porn website and a dating site for transgenders. And so this situation is leading to two things.
First, that’s attracting men who are here for the wrong reasons, mostly men looking for fun, or a cheaper alternative to paid cam show sites. These guys pay, but that’s not for the sake of finding a girlfriend.
Second, that’s attracting transsexuals who are also here for the wrong reasons. Men who are willing to pay to fulfil their fantasy create a market, so sex workers and scammers come. And nice girls can get tempted and turn evil.
In the end, what option is left for genuine men and transgenders looking for something more serious? None, they have to do with it, sign up on these sites anyways and trying to take the good out from the bad. There is no decent alternative for them.
At last a *decent* dating site for transgenders
So what can I do to change that? Simple, I keep the direction I started with my book and my blog: show-casting transgenders on the bright side for once. Ladyboys are not all the bar girls of Pattaya, transgenders are not all the actresses of your favourite porn movie. And I want my dating site to be the decent and professional alternative that was missing on the Internet until now.
So it has open this month, and it’s already a hit! No seriously, I might be speaking a little advance, but it’s showing good signs that it’s gonna set up the future of online dating for transsexual women.
We have a very strict policy and our moderators are already rigorously making them respected (but always in a light and fun way, we’re here for dating, it’s supposed to be fun, right!). On My Ladyboy Date (that’s the name), you will see no sexy photo, no nudity, no sexually explicit content. Members will be asked to upload a decent photo and description in order to be able to communicate. I know and understand that some men are still “in the closet” regarding this and are reticent to uploading their photo on a dating site made for transgenders. Well it’s something they will have to overcome. My belief is that if you’re not ready to assume posting a photo on a website that respects your privacy (yeah, no photo is ever publicly accessible, contrarily to most other dating sites), you are probably not ready to have a transgender girlfriend… These efforts are asked to our members, so we can focus on the quality rather than quantity.
There are still many concepts and ideas to implement in order to better the system, but our vision is clear: building bridges between transgenders and gentlemen who like transgenders. And doing it well 🙂
The site is already live and you can sign up (it’s free) and see by yourself 🙂 I’ll be writing more on the blog from now on, sharing my ideas and thoughts about dating for transgenders, and how I will try to hopefully change how things used to work until now.
If we are doing it well, that’s hopefully gonna fix online dating transgenders. See you after one year of activity for counting the new couples formed 🙂