If you are like me, you are attracted to transgender women, and want to seriously date ladyboys. It’s already a big step to take this attraction to the serious stage, as most guys don’t do it. My blog is actually dedicated to these guys, the ones who assume their special attraction and want to make it real, the guys who are strong enough to stand the stares of the ignorants and not mind about the dogmas of the society.
But we need to go an extra mile. If you’re new to the game of dating with ladyboys, then you are a potential and easy target for the malicious and predatory ones. Most of the guys that I know who are trans-oriented are nice guys, they’re sweet to their girlfriend and generous. Sometimes it makes me upset to see how some ladyboys make advantage of them, because they’re fucking serious and good guys! Ladyboys usually strive to find a good guy, a guy who will treat them well and not consider them as sex objects only. Unfortunately, the good guys and the genuine ladyboys don’t always meet. The good guys usually have their first experience with a bitch who will crush their heart and rip them off. They usually have enough and definitely quit dating ladyboys and get back to real girls. And the genuine ladyboys usually collect the bad experiences with perverts and liars.
Anyways, I would like to write some thoughts about how a trans-oriented man should take care of not getting himself into a sad story and a bad experience.
Why you are an easy target
You are an easy target when you meet one of these conditions:
- you never dated an Asian woman (and by Asian I especially mean Thai or Filipino)
- you never dated a ladyboy (sex with an escort is NOT a date)
- you are a good guy, naturally nice and generous (which is good, don’t change!)
- you are looking for something serious, this is not just a fantasy to you
You’re a western man, you’re usually mature (above 25, chances are you’re not playing anymore and want a serious love story) and you want to find a partner for life. You have the good old christian values that make you a “good guy”: faithful, loyal, supportive. Because you’re a westerner, society already conditioned you to plan for the future, have savings, be wise in your spendings… And that’s all good qualities that a girl is looking for, and that’s good qualities that usually are harder to find in Asian men. So let me tell you guys, you’re a catch for Asian ladyboys. The drawback is, you’re also a perfect target for malicious ladyboys. They know pretty well all of this, what are the common traits of an average western man and how to make advantage of it. Worse, they give the tips to their young “sisters” very early. With the mass effect, it’s difficult not to get tempted.
Don’t make me wrong of course, it’s not to generalise and not all of the Asian ladyboys would behave that way. I am the lucky proud example of a happy guy having a genuine relationship with a very good hearted Filipino ladyboy, and I have many ladyboy friends who are all as decent. I also got fooled in the past. I could see the difference between transgenders in Europe/USA and transgenders in Asia, and the difference is big. I got fooled with my first Filipino ladyboy girlfriend some years ago, got my heart into pieces and my pockets empty. But this is for another article 😉
You guys are an easy target. Always be careful before you really get to know a person, even if she is the most adorable petite Asian girl you ever seen, sometimes the devil has a pretty face.
Use common sense to prevent you a heart breaking
If you’re going to Asia for the first time and playing the game of dating ladyboys, then you might at first lose your mind. You will probably go to a red light district in Bangkok or Manila, and see how all the pretty ladies are after you. Even though you date one for some days, she will quickly push you to become boyfriend and girlfriend, and if you let yourself overwhelmed by your emotions, you might fall into the trap. Nobody falls in love at first sight, that’s not love, that’s simple attraction, that’s a trick of your heart and mind. Many ladyboys are very good at seducing men and making them fall in love. Get a girlfriend when you’re in Asia for holidays, I will advise your to be careful, sit down and think after the flow of emotions is gone.
Of course when you’re dating an Asian ladyboy, you shall behave as a perfect gentleman (you’d do the same with a genetic girl, right?). And especially because we’re in Asia, you must be the one to pay and offer: restaurant, drinks, club, cinema. That represents more money for a Filipino than for you. But set some limits. Don’t let her ask for gifts, gifts must come from you. And don’t offer her unreasonably expensive gifts, she might be very happy with inexpensive things, as long as you’re original and make it a sweet attention.
I insist: you should not be the one to support your ladyboy girlfriend. Of course, in your couple you’re likely to be the one with the biggest incomes, but is that a reason for supporting her (and her family) without even her having a job? That’s not what I call love. And that’s not even good for herself, what will happen to her in the future if ever you break up and she’s not so young, beautiful and sexy enough anymore to hook up easily with another foreigner? She’s under-qualified with no work experience and she’ll strive to cope with her life. In my opinion, that’s not helping her. (I will write a dedicated article on that topic soon)
To conclude, I will say that it’s a mistake to think that mentalities and culture are the same with Asian ladyboys than for the girls you known before in your western country. Mentalities are different. Conditions in these countries are different. And it takes time to understand. Thailand and Philippines are awesome countries, with awesome people, and ladyboys are great. You have everything to win when you get to know them, and have an Asian ladyboy girlfriend. But it is different. Therefore be very careful, don’t fall into the traps, dodge the malicious, and get documented!
There are so many things I could write about how good hearted foreign men get sometimes fooled by an Asian ladyboy, but this is now the end of the article 🙂 That’s an important part of the book I published this year, you will find everything you need to know if you’re into seriously getting a ladyboy girlfriend: Guide on dating ladyboys.
As usual, I invite you to comment and share your opinion on the topic. I might become more and more controversial in my articles. To be honest, that’s what my new Facebook group inspires me, because it’s one of the recurrent topics: how to ditch away the malicious ladyboys and the pervert assholes to only keep the quality people, and form couples that work.