If you are like me, you are attracted to transgender women, and want to seriously date ladyboys. It’s already a big step to take this attraction to the serious stage, as most guys don’t do it. My blog is actually dedicated to these guys, the ones who assume their special attraction and want to make it real, the guys who are strong enough to stand the stares of the ignorants and not mind about the dogmas of the society.
But we need to go an extra mile. If you’re new to the game of dating with ladyboys, then you are a potential and easy target for the malicious and predatory ones. Most of the guys that I know who are trans-oriented are nice guys, they’re sweet to their girlfriend and generous. Sometimes it makes me upset to see how some ladyboys make advantage of them, because they’re fucking serious and good guys! Ladyboys usually strive to find a good guy, a guy who will treat them well and not consider them as sex objects only. Unfortunately, the good guys and the genuine ladyboys don’t always meet. The good guys usually have their first experience with a bitch who will crush their heart and rip them off. They usually have enough and definitely quit dating ladyboys and get back to real girls. And the genuine ladyboys usually collect the bad experiences with perverts and liars.
Anyways, I would like to write some thoughts about how a trans-oriented man should take care of not getting himself into a sad story and a bad experience.
Why you are an easy target
You are an easy target when you meet one of these conditions:
- you never dated an Asian woman (and by Asian I especially mean Thai or Filipino)
- you never dated a ladyboy (sex with an escort is NOT a date)
- you are a good guy, naturally nice and generous (which is good, don’t change!)
- you are looking for something serious, this is not just a fantasy to you
You’re a western man, you’re usually mature (above 25, chances are you’re not playing anymore and want a serious love story) and you want to find a partner for life. You have the good old christian values that make you a “good guy”: faithful, loyal, supportive. Because you’re a westerner, society already conditioned you to plan for the future, have savings, be wise in your spendings… And that’s all good qualities that a girl is looking for, and that’s good qualities that usually are harder to find in Asian men. So let me tell you guys, you’re a catch for Asian ladyboys. The drawback is, you’re also a perfect target for malicious ladyboys. They know pretty well all of this, what are the common traits of an average western man and how to make advantage of it. Worse, they give the tips to their young “sisters” very early. With the mass effect, it’s difficult not to get tempted.
Don’t make me wrong of course, it’s not to generalise and not all of the Asian ladyboys would behave that way. I am the lucky proud example of a happy guy having a genuine relationship with a very good hearted Filipino ladyboy, and I have many ladyboy friends who are all as decent. I also got fooled in the past. I could see the difference between transgenders in Europe/USA and transgenders in Asia, and the difference is big. I got fooled with my first Filipino ladyboy girlfriend some years ago, got my heart into pieces and my pockets empty. But this is for another article 
You guys are an easy target. Always be careful before you really get to know a person, even if she is the most adorable petite Asian girl you ever seen, sometimes the devil has a pretty face.
Use common sense to prevent you a heart breaking
If you’re going to Asia for the first time and playing the game of dating ladyboys, then you might at first lose your mind. You will probably go to a red light district in Bangkok or Manila, and see how all the pretty ladies are after you. Even though you date one for some days, she will quickly push you to become boyfriend and girlfriend, and if you let yourself overwhelmed by your emotions, you might fall into the trap. Nobody falls in love at first sight, that’s not love, that’s simple attraction, that’s a trick of your heart and mind. Many ladyboys are very good at seducing men and making them fall in love. Get a girlfriend when you’re in Asia for holidays, I will advise your to be careful, sit down and think after the flow of emotions is gone.
Of course when you’re dating an Asian ladyboy, you shall behave as a perfect gentleman (you’d do the same with a genetic girl, right?). And especially because we’re in Asia, you must be the one to pay and offer: restaurant, drinks, club, cinema. That represents more money for a Filipino than for you. But set some limits. Don’t let her ask for gifts, gifts must come from you. And don’t offer her unreasonably expensive gifts, she might be very happy with inexpensive things, as long as you’re original and make it a sweet attention.
I insist: you should not be the one to support your ladyboy girlfriend. Of course, in your couple you’re likely to be the one with the biggest incomes, but is that a reason for supporting her (and her family) without even her having a job? That’s not what I call love. And that’s not even good for herself, what will happen to her in the future if ever you break up and she’s not so young, beautiful and sexy enough anymore to hook up easily with another foreigner? She’s under-qualified with no work experience and she’ll strive to cope with her life. In my opinion, that’s not helping her. (I will write a dedicated article on that topic soon)
To conclude, I will say that it’s a mistake to think that mentalities and culture are the same with Asian ladyboys than for the girls you known before in your western country. Mentalities are different. Conditions in these countries are different. And it takes time to understand. Thailand and Philippines are awesome countries, with awesome people, and ladyboys are great. You have everything to win when you get to know them, and have an Asian ladyboy girlfriend. But it is different. Therefore be very careful, don’t fall into the traps, dodge the malicious, and get documented!
There are so many things I could write about how good hearted foreign men get sometimes fooled by an Asian ladyboy, but this is now the end of the article 
That’s an important part of the book I published this year, you will find everything you need to know if you’re into seriously getting a ladyboy girlfriend: Guide on dating ladyboys.
As usual, I invite you to comment and share your opinion on the topic. I might become more and more controversial in my articles. To be honest, that’s what my new Facebook group inspires me, because it’s one of the recurrent topics: how to ditch away the malicious ladyboys and the pervert assholes to only keep the quality people, and form couples that work.
Well I admit i got fooled 5-6 years ago. Meet a wonderfull ladyboy trugh a web sid! and i thaught i knew all the scams… i did not!
Stupid as i was i let her handel my money when i was there (not all of it but some and not my credit card) and funny enough after abouth 1 week we where out of funds. and i was hmm how can that be?
I later found out she put a side some of it! (ill come back to what later)
And whil i was there her phone kept rinning often and she walk away n spoke english… Odd.. well im well behaved so i did not ask!
Well i was much in love,and we had to have some engagment rings, so she wannet a ring whit diamonds… wupty around 60.000 bath. and i felt so forced it to giving her one. ( its still on her finger)
It was a wonderfull time! thoes 14 dayes.
Then i came home and was wondering something, and found my gf on several datingsites and newly updates on it. I was shocked! and asked abouth it… we had long talks online abouth it and manny problems.. then she turnet evrything around (she is good ad that) so i was the problem and she was a saint.
Well i mett her again n had her visiting my contry! Where she made manny problems so i had to send her back home after 3 weeks (2 month to early)
i realy loved her madly… and tryed to get back whit her eaven moved so she cut come to me again!
But she had other men. (did not tell me)
today i have very littel contact whit her 2 times a year.
I know she have been marriged 2 times (no papers) and she dont live in a shack any more but in a 12 million bath house whit swimingpool ( she got that build 1½ year after she and i quit)
She have had manny men. I know becorse of her i all wayes check people up on dating sites and do so regulary so i can avoid to fall in the same trap again. She is still on them and use them all the time!
But me im luck have a sweet gf in Cebu thats honest! And we are goind steady 2 years now!
She must have ripped off many men for affording a 12 millions baths house. I’m glad that this bad experience didn’t make you generalise and hate ladyboys, kudos for your Cebuana girlfriend
I really admire what you are doing for the trans society. I’m not a transsexual but I am proud of my trans sisters. I hope that there are many men like you. Keep it up!
Thank you!
Well I think I tick most of those n00b boxes
hahahahaha i cant stop laughing hahahahaha….
You make a good point about the Christian thing. I am always criticizing Christianity because they have taken away (DOMA) our rights. But my Filipino ladyboy fiance is Christian and she is golden.
Big difference between western Christianity and eastern Christianity. My fiance say’s there are a lot of ladyboys in her Filipino churches. They wouldn’t even be a allowed in a western church.
I might be more on my guard with Thailand ladyboys compared to Filipino ladyboys. I am generalizing obviously.
But I will be honest. I doubt I will EVER date an American shemale ever again. I have a lot of experience with that. They are so arrogant over here and they think the world revolves around them and it baffles my mind. It baffles my mind because many of them have absolutely nothing to offer a guy like me besides headaches, problems, and bullshit.
I have zero tolerance for bullshit no matter how great looking they are. They can be the hottest on the planet but if they offer me 10% bullshit they will be history. My Filipino ladyboy offers me absolutely no bullshit and asks for nothing. The fact that she asks for nothing makes me want to give her something.
I guess my point is even though you have to be wise and discerning with eastern ladyboys it is nothing compared to the bullshit of western shemales. I got tired of having to date 100 “girls” from the west to find even 1 I liked. Pretty picky. But I don’t have to deal with a ratio even close to that with eastern ladyboys.
You’ve got a point mate. If we had to draw a characteristics about humility between western shemales and eastern ladyboys, eastern ladyboys are in general far more humble and easy going.
I have always found Thai ladyboys (I have very little experience with Fillipinas) are just happy if you treat them as a lady!
Just like someone in a wheelchair just wants to be treated like a normal person!
Hello, what a great website you have here. I am an American who is trans-attracted (I’ve dated transwomen before and am not just curious or anything). I love your articles but have a practical problem…can an American man find a job in Asia? I was saving up money to fly to Manila to look for work but I lost it due to a fraud and now I am stumped as to find a way to live in the Philippines and find a transgender girlfriend. Any ideas? Would I be welcomed?
Some jobs are easier to find than others. Basically, if you can work online or if you can make your own business, these are the best ways. Or if you have a skill that locals don’t have.
Hi, I am a Filipina transgender here in the philippines, I had 2 failed relationships with a canadian and a British national. Didn’t ask for money from them , and I have decent work as a call center agent and I own a dress shoppe and salon. Maybe we were not that compatible, I am not a saint, maybe I have my bad side too, but I learned from my mistakes,and will try to change for the better and I am still not giving up to meet my future husband! \(@@)/
Awesome, I wish you will meet your future husband soon, and I wish every ladyboy is like you!
How about Caucasian men who love to date local guys?
I am not really knowledgeable about that one
I am 26, and have lived in Bangkok for 2 years.
I do not have a relationship with a ladyboy, but I have casually dated some. I am actually in a longterm relationship with a Thai girl.
In reading these articles I feel I want to contribute. Firstly, a saying I heard that rings so true….. “You would never shake an apple tree expecting oranges to fall, so don’t shake a whore tree expecting angels to fall out of it!”
Secondly, as far as it goes for supporting you partner, heed my words of advice! I take this idea from a UK millionaire called Peter Jones (Dragons Den). He (Peter) has set up a trust for his children that will pay 1pound (GBP) for every pound they earn, unless they are in a charitable, low paid job like nursing – where it will pay 2GBP for every 1GBP earnt.
My girlfriend earns 10,000THB (Thai Baht – approx 200GBP) each month, cleaning. I then give her 10,000THB per month. If she earns nothing, I will give her nothing. This encourages her to work for the reasons already stated on this site (state of mind etc). This also means if she wants to go to the cinema with her sister, or send money to her mother, she can do this.
Regarding gifts, it is my experience most Thai (and maybe Fillipina) ladies/ladyboys would rather you take them for a “street food” meal costing 30 – 50THB (60penceGBP – 1GBP) per dish than take them to a fancy 5star resturant!
Remember this, and you will do well! Do not expect an active working girl (whore) to give up her trade to stay with you for something small like 10,000THB – 20,000THB a month, when without you she sould be earning 40,000THB – 80,000THB, and enjoying her work, for the most part!!!
Hey thanks a lot for that experience feedback and story
Bonjour,
j’ai fait la connaissance d’une adorable ladyboy thailandaise, j’en suis amoureux, je crois qu’elle est aussi amoureuse de moi, n’ayant aucune expérience préalable, j’aimerais bien en savoir plus, à savoir lire votre livre.
Est-il possible de l’avoir en langue Française ?
Merci.
Bonjour,
Malheureusement mon livre n’est disponible qu’en anglais, je ne sais pas si je trouverai le temps un jour de le traduire dans une autre langue (je parle français et espagnol, mais c’est plutôt une question de temps…). Désolé!
I want to find a ladyboy lover forever and from Asian please
hey you may check out my soon-to-be-released new dating website for serious men and transgenders: http://myladyboydate.com
i have seen so many our blokes from AU, GB, USA, NZ Germany,ETC treat these ladyboys like absolute dirt no wonder that some of them retaliate.I have at a moment very good relationship, which I hope will eventuate to lasting one decency is the word and I observed that biggest asset Asian ladyboys posses is incredible amount of GRACE
I am a ladyboy from philippines and i Definitely agree with this statement. “The good guys usually have their first experience with a bitch who will crush their heart and rip them off. They usually have enough and definitely quit dating ladyboys and get back to real girls. And the genuine ladyboys usually collect the bad experiences with perverts and liars.”
thats why its hard for me to trust guys as of these days… i am not a saint nor an angel, i have my imperfections too but why do i always fall for the right guy..
why do these bitches always get what they want while the humble one’s get the wrong person?
i have been fooled so many times,. that guys would say that they like me but theyre chatting a lot of ladyboys.,.. then they would want to meet me after meeting the others and fuck us all?
We are not a food on the table that u can eat and try all u can then choose who’s “taste’s best”
*fall for the WRONG GUY. (i mean)
I will try to read your article more thoroughly when I have more time. But I did see a lot of concern about ladyboys not having skills or able to support themselves. I’m sure that’s true in many cases but when I was there I dated a ladyboy getting a master’s degree and I was very proud of that person. Unfortunately, the relationship ended later and I still feel sad about that but just like my past relationships with women that ended later, that’s the way it is and well that’s life. OK I’ll try to think of more to say some other time. Thanks for nice article.
the ones that send shivers down my spine are the ones involved in murder.There is one present in one popular site that keeps changing name appearance etc that i befriended online for a while,just chat and within a short time i came to the conclusion that most probably she “terminated” her last scandinavian middle aged well to do boyfriend with an “accident”.She ended up with all the cash in the bank,house and land in the north of thailand.scary stuff.
crazy story oO sick people everywhere…
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