It’s been a while I didn’t write something on my blog and I want to apologise for it. I’ve been super busy with life, and especially with my new project, which has become very dear to my heart recently (hey not as much as my ladyboy girlfriend of course, nothing beats her, ever!). A dating site of a new kind especially made for transgenders!
I know what you’re going to say: yet another dating site? Well, no, and I’m going to tell you why. Because online dating for transgenders is broken, and my new dating site is solving this.
Unless you’re living in Thailand / Philippines (and some other South East Asia countries), chances are that the population of transgenders (ladyboys) in your place is pretty low. Therefore, the Internet placed itself as the best way to meet one of these special girls. And even though you’re living in South East Asia, online dating is also a powerful tool, because your dream girl is not likely to be at the corner of your street right there waiting for you!
Online dating has become so popular, and it raises its lot of issues and challenges. In addition to that, online dating for transgenders raises even more difficulties that are really inherent to the transgender world. I will try to write about what I believe are the biggest issues, in the most casual way possible and how I plan to address them. Continue reading
I would like to share how much I feel glad and positive these days about the dimension that my blog reached. Actually, it’s not just a blog, it’s not even a book nor a Facebook group, it’s an EXPERIENCE. It’s the experience that since I published my book, started to militate (at my own little scale) for the recognition of transgender women as more than an object of fantasy, and founded this new community of respectful men who seek serious relationship with ladyboys… since that time, I met a lot of interesting people and learnt a lot from their experience (even though I was supposed to be the teacher myself ahah).
If you read my blog, you might feel like ladyboy and money are two matters that can’t be taken away from each other. And you’re right, as money is involved in 99% of the love relationships with ladyboys. Don’t make me wrong, it’s not bad in itself, but look, these girls usually come from poor countries, and being a ladyboy takes money for a lot of things (surgery, hormones, clothes, make up…). And many ladyboys are or used to be sex workers, so they highly involve money in their relationships with men.
Ok so why am I writing all this? Here in Philippines (where I live with my ladyboy girlfriend) I can see a pattern that tends to repeat more and more. Well, I guess Thailand has the exact same thing. But very often, when a ladyboy has a foreign boyfriend (usually an older man from a western country, but not always older), she stops working and gets fully supported by her boyfriend or husband. After all, you are earning 10 times more than your ladyboy girlfriend, and providing that you are living together and already pay for the rent and groceries, that’d be pointless to let your girlfriend work 8 hours a day for just pocket money to you.
That could also be that you are not living together (you still live abroad) and sending money to your ladyboy girlfriend so that she can afford a living. Or you could also have a condo in Manila/Cebu where you spend two months every year and that your ladyboy girlfriend maintains when you’re away from the country.
Just opened recently and it is gaining more and more popularity already. If you are a Facebook user, you can join right now this group Meet My Ladyboy Girlfriend and its 1 000 members all in search of serious relationship (whether you are a man looking for a ladyboy, or a ladyboy looking for a man).
The purpose of the group is simple. I want to open the discussion and the debate between intelligent and reasoning people about the issues and challenges of dating and love relationships between men and ladyboys. Of coures, it’s a place for meeting new friends, chatting further and possibly forming relationships (which is all I wish for you guys and girls!)
We already have members from everywhere in the world (including Thai ladyboys and Filipino ladyboys, and men from every country Europe, USA, Australia and more). The points of views differ, and it’s a good thing, it’s keeping the debate alive, in a respectful and interesting way. And I thank you all for that!
If you are like me, you are attracted to transgender women, and want to seriously date ladyboys. It’s already a big step to take this attraction to the serious stage, as most guys don’t do it. My blog is actually dedicated to these guys, the ones who assume their special attraction and want to make it real, the guys who are strong enough to stand the stares of the ignorants and not mind about the dogmas of the society.
But we need to go an extra mile. If you’re new to the game of dating with ladyboys, then you are a potential and easy target for the malicious and predatory ones. Most of the guys that I know who are trans-oriented are nice guys, they’re sweet to their girlfriend and generous. Sometimes it makes me upset to see how some ladyboys make advantage of them, because they’re fucking serious and good guys! Ladyboys usually strive to find a good guy, a guy who will treat them well and not consider them as sex objects only. Unfortunately, the good guys and the genuine ladyboys don’t always meet. The good guys usually have their first experience with a bitch who will crush their heart and rip them off. They usually have enough and definitely quit dating ladyboys and get back to real girls. And the genuine ladyboys usually collect the bad experiences with perverts and liars.
Anyways, I would like to write some thoughts about how a trans-oriented man should take care of not getting himself into a sad story and a bad experience.
In a previous article, I was writing about 6 reasons why ladyboys doubt of men, it’s justice to share my thoughts about the reverse now And I have also 5 good reasons why men usually doubt of ladyboys.
Here is a problem that I wanted to tackle, that will maybe give men some insights about why do ladyboys doubt of men, a priori. More or less, I am compiling here the stories and experiences I’ve been told here and there amongst my friends (whether they’re online friends or real life friends) and from my Facebook group for dating ladyboys.
Yes, when you approach a ladyboy or the first time, she already has many doubts regarding your intentions. Maybe a very young one with no experience with men would not, but passed 20 years old she already had enough bad experiences to be quite doubtful. So here it is, you meet a ladyboy and you start to make acquaintance, you are at first labeled as a “potentially dangerous for her heart”. And then you have to more or less prove that you are worth her time.
Here are 6 reasons (6 typical stories I often hear) why ladyboys usually doubt of men.
Many men feel attracted to ladyboys (or in the politically correct term: transgender women). This attraction is not abnormal (read: who are the ladyboy lovers), but it raises many challenges for these men who like this special type of girls.
The most common challenge being the following: where can I meet a decent ladyboy? Most of the western men already came across transvestites and tranny prostitutes in the streets of their city, most of the time not really attractive, and they’re not dressing like girls full time (usually just at night). The thing is, many transgender women just pass for real girls when you see them, walking in the street or hanging out in a mall. Sometimes it’s impossible to find out without a very closer look, or knowing the “hints”.
Why am I writing these lines about having a relationship with a ladyboy prostitute? Because the fact is that it is likely to happen to you if you are, like me, attracted to ladyboys. It’s a fact (but I can develop more in a future article): there are a substancial number of prostitutes amongst the population of ladyboys in Thailand and Philippines (and generally South East Asia I guess). And if it’s not prostitute, that can also be escort (which is slightly similar), cam whore or scam artist.
Going straight to the point, I believe that prostitution and relationship are contradictory. Do you see yourself having a girlfriend whose job is to sell her body to other men? Especially if you are a foreigner, and she is likely to have many foreign customers, how does this make you feel? Nah, there is something wrong… Unless she gives up her job for you, you are probably heading to a disaster, endless arguments, jealousy crises and a broken heart.
I think someone once said that the heart has its reasons which Reason doesn’t know (I even think this Pascal Blaise was French, oh), but hey, it’s totally possible that you might fall for a ladyboy sex-worker! What is prostitution but a job after all. Probably most of them are not doing it because they like it (but they might be more or less comfortable with their choice), and they are also humans, with a heart and a brain, they can have kind and adorable personalities and a good heart (they might also be ugly bitches, ugly in the inside I mean). Anyways, if this happens to you, there are a few issues that you should know about…